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It is your body, and your choice. If you don’t feel you can handle having a child you absolutely don’t have to. And if you’re not having a child you don’t need to confide in him. Personally I wouldn’t tell my ex if I was planning to terminate the pregnancy.
Pregnant after a break up. Pls help me.
So basically 3 days after my parner and I have decided to end a nearly five year relationship, I've discovered I'm pregnant. I'm 24 years old and even though i work full time, I know i can't afford to have a baby and mentally I know I'm not in the right mind frame to look after someone other then myself. My partner is 31, jobless and planning on moving to a city a 2 hour plane ride away from where I live. For the most part of our relationship he's been really good to me but a horrible part of me doesn't want to tell him I'm pregnant or that I 100% plan to get an abortion because I don't want to drag out him moving away/our break up or him trying to convince me to keep the baby. I'm not ready to have a child , nor am I financially or mentally ready to have one. We've been careful with birth control all these years but I guess not careful enough. I can 100% say I don't want to have this baby and I'm absolutely certain I don't want want my relationship to continue with my partner but am I wrong for not telling him? I feel so guilty but I feel as if it's best for him not to know. Please help me.
Side note - I have been pregnant once before to an ex and we decided to keep the baby. It was a HORRIBLE pregnancy, bleeding, discharge and cramping pain everyday and eventually even though I had done everything I could to keep myself and the baby healthy I somehow ended up with a infection in my uterus which quickly grew into blood poisoning. If hadn't had gone to the hospital when I had I could have died. I had to terminate my baby before it had chance to survive so that I could live. I've now been marked as high risk so I have no intention of keeping the baby and giving it up for adoption. Im not willing to put my body through that again unless the baby growing inside me is for me. I'm sorry if this upsets anyone but I don't want it. End of story. I respect any and everyone's opinions on the topic but at the end of the day an abortion is what I'm set on doing.
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Ja
Also I want to add, you’ll get a lot of backlash here for considering abortion. If you don’t want to go through with the pregnancy you don’t have to. Do not let anyone make you feel like you need to. Yes adoption is an option, IF you’re willing to and able to carry to term and give birth.
Je
I agree!
It’s your body, it’s your choice. People here will try and tell you he deserves to know bc it’s half his....no....it’s not a half and half situation...you are not splitting the tab, it’s not in half his body, it’s not half his decision to make. Only you own your body 100%.And the ‘think of other options’ people that think it’s ok to guilt you bc they want a baby or have some silly notion that they even get a voice over someone else’s body.... The body that houses your soul is already occupied. It is occupied by you. You live there. And you do not have to let anyone use it without your permission. No matter the reason. No matter the mistake, the timing, what, where, who, why or how. Do what is right for you at this point in your life.
You're not wrong for not wanting to tell him. You have your reasons and that's okay. But I would probably tell him anyway. That's just the kind of person I am. I'd make it clear to him that you don't want to get back together just because you're pregnant and that either way you do not plan to keep the baby. I'd probably put baby up for adoption, because there's people like me out there who would love that child unconditionally like it's my very own. But again, that's just me. I'm sorry you're in this situation. I'm sure it's very hard. And just know that I'm here if you need to talk to someone. 💕 Praying for you and your situation!
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