Am I clingy?

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I already talked to my boyfriend about this but I’m still upset.
I’m upset at the fact that we barely spend quality time with each other. We hang out once a week. The last time we hung out was Wednesday, we just went to buy socks and parted ways. Today we were suppose to watch a movie together, but he said he didn’t want to go out anymore  and that rubbed me the wrong way so we both didn’t see each other. He said we can hang out all day tomorrow instead. This whole thing is turning me off that we don’t spend quality time and makes me not want to be with him anymore. Like I always want to see him, but it does not seem reciprocal. I keep thinking, wow if he loves me, he would want to see me on his free time too. But no that doesn’t seem like the case. It feels like hanging out with me is a chore.

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How old are you and how long have you been together?

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I have been in that situation before. It sucks, and I felt the way you are! I ended up letting it go on, and we saw each other maybe once every 2 months if even that. We eventually broke up, for that plus many other reasons. If you’ve talked to him and nothing changed, it may be time to part ways.

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Look into the whole love languages thing, that may help. I’m the same way quality time is a big deal for me, but itsnot always a big deal for my partner. 
I think you should talk to your bf about how spending time together is important to you, that’s how you know he values you and cares about you. If he changes and starts trying harder then great problem solved! If he doesn’t, or worse if he tries to somehow blame you, then ditch him. It may just not be a good match if he’s not willing to do something that is literally the way you accept love. Or (and hopefully it’s not this one) he really just doesn’t want to spend time with you, maybe he’s not that invested or into the relationship. 
But again, before reacting, talk to him and explain how you’re feeling, make sure he knows how serious it is. And do think hard about if that’s all what you want, do you want to be with a guy who makes you feel like a chore? Or would you rather be with someone who loves seeing you as much as you live seeing then?

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So I saw in your other comment how long you’ve been dating and how old you are and I think it’s weird that you don’t hang out more. My husband and i have seen each other practically every day since we’ve been together and that was 5 years ago. And I should add that my husband is very nonemotional and distant so the fact that we saw each other every day should tel you something.

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It sounds like you just want different things from the relationship. Probably time to go your separate ways so you both find a better match

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Talk about it with him. People sometimes want different amounts of alone and couple time, not to mention we don’t know what reasons he might have. You want more couple time than he does, and that’s fine! Just continue to talk and adjust to each other.

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I think it’s strange that you always want to see him...

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Usually in a new relationship, ppl like to spend most of their time together...shoot, I've been married for almost a year now and I miss my hubby when we are apart...and we even work together. Lol if you like a person, it's only natura to want to be around them.

Am I clingy?

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