Pregnant but very young...

Emma

So guys...there’s no easy way to explain everything. I’m scared to go to my parents and I don’t know what to do.

To get things cleared up. I’m 14 years old. I’ve been dating my boyfriend ever since 6th grade. So I was about 12.

We hang out a lot and we made a huge mistake of having sex. He didn’t have a condom because him and I both agreed I probably wouldn’t get pregnant. So we had sex.

About 3 weeks later I was supposed to be on my period. But I wasn’t. I figured I was just late and would get it in a few days. So I waited..

About 3 days later I still hadn’t got it. So I called my boyfriend and told him everything. He said meet me in the park in about 20 minutes

I got there and just sobbed when I saw him. He held me for a while and then we walked to the pharmacy to pick up some pregnancy tests. I was to nervous to go inside and buy them so he did.

We walked back to his house and I took them...I took three and all of them became positive. He came into the bathroom and we both started crying. He told me that he’d stay with me through the whole process.

It’s now been 2 days and I still haven’t told anyone. Pls tell me what I should do. Im stupid and should’ve known better.

Pls pls pls tell me what I should do x

Edit: me and my boyfriend talked for a long time and we both decided we want to keep the baby. We grew up where everyone told us abortion isn’t fair to the life you created and we didn’t want to do that. And from him being adopted himself he didn’t want to baby to end up in a home that didn’t accept him or love him like we would.

We are telling his parents on Sunday and we’ll go from there with what my parents say.

I posted the how I told his parents so go check that out if you want.

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You need to tell your parents or a trusted adult. Make a doctor's appointment. You had unprotected sex and now youre pregnant you need to step up and be an adult now. There's also plenty of other options too. Best of luck to you💗

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
Thanks so much 💕 I’m pretty mature for my age but just wasn’t thinking when this all went down. I’m going to try to hardest to be there for the child and I’m hoping my boyfriend will too

Fe

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I was in the same exact situation as you are right now 13 years ago. I was with my daughters father since I was 12 and we got pregnant at 14 and broke up about a month before I found out. I honestly had no clue I was pregnant until school started and I had to wake up extra early for school and I got morning sickness every single day. My sister and best friend who are about 1.5 years older then me were convinced I was pregnant and told me I needed to make a doctors apt. to be sure. I told me mother I wasnt feeling well and thought I was sick and if we could go to the doctors. She made the appt for the next day. I told me doctor that I thought I was and they gave me a pee test and had my mother leave the room when the results came back. The doctor told me I was indeed pregnant and that I had a few different options to take into consideration and to take me time and think about it. She then asked me if I wanted to tell my mother or I wanted her to tell her. I told her she could tell her. I left the room and told me mom the doctor wanted to speak with her and that I'd be in the car waiting. As she walked to the car I could tell she had been crying, but said nothing to me the whole car ride home. Once we got home she called the family to the living room to let them know what was going on. She told me that she supported me in whatever decision I made and that she would be there for me no matter what. I decided I was keeping the baby, my daughters father was not happy, he didnt want to keep the baby. My mother did indeed help me raise my daughter for the first 4 years, so I could finish high school. She watched her while I was in school, but the second I walked home my daughter was my responsibility until I left for school the next day. My daughters father wanted nothing to do with me or the baby until she was about 3 or 4 months. He has been in and out of her life for 13 years. I'll tell you now, it's not going to be easy at all. You'll probably loose most of your friends because they just dont understand the responsibility you now have, but those who are your true friends will be there for you. I lost most of my friend by 10th grade and only 2 of my childhood friends have stuck by me since before I was pregnant. You'll have days were you wished you had given your baby up for adoption, that doesnt make you a bad mother I promise. Yes your life will forever be changed, but I promise you, it will change for the better. I wish you the best of luck on your new journey of becoming a mother. My daughter is now 13 and she is a very strong, independent, stubborn, beautiful teenager and I wouldnt wish for my life any other way. She was my saving grace and made me a better person. Here are a few pictures of my little mini me💙❤💝

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ney • Jan 17, 2019
Okay i cried. 😭🤣 shes very beautiful just like momma!! Im pretty sure you did a good job,❤️

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K • Jan 7, 2019
She’s beautiful

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G • Jan 6, 2019
Your little girl is beautiful!

ma

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tell an adult that you feel comfortable telling. if you don't feel safe telling your parents or his parents (I mean genuinely unsafe, not uncomfortable or worried about getting in trouble) then tell a teacher, school guidance counselor, or doctor. this is a very scary situation to deal with. I'm 17 and the thought of going through what you are terrifies me. but you need to deal with it as soon as possible, whether dealing with it for you means getting healthy or looking at other options. I hope all goes well for you. hang in there

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
Ok. I’m going to tell them. But probably his parents first. And at the right time

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handfullk • Jan 5, 2019
What she said👆👆

Ja

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First, breathe. Yes you made a mistake but we all make mistakes in life. Since you guys have decided to keep the baby that means you need to tell your parents sooner than later because in all reality you’re not gonna be able to do this on your own because of how young you are. Tell them, have it out in he air, and SHOW them that you’re ready to take responsibility for your own actions. You need to start taking prenatal vitamins and also make a dr appointment. It’s gonna be tough telling them but these aware all things they can help you out with. They’ll be disappointed at first or honestly until you have the baby but if oh have good parents they will support you. My suggestion to you is start babysitting to save up money or what ever you can do to save up money so all the financial burden doesn’t rest on your parents(I’m pretty sure you can’t get a job at 14). DO NOT GIVE UP ON SCHOOL. It will be hard not having a social life but finishing at least high school will be beneficial for not only you but your baby as well. DO NOT RELY ON YOUR BOY FRIEND. I don’t mean this is a “he’s young and can’t handle the responsibility” kind of way but more of a prepare yourself for the possibility of him doing what most boys do, walking away and leaving you with the responsibility of raising a child that you both made. This is the time to buckle down, work your ass off, and wisen up. I hope this was helpful and you can message me at any time, no judgment here. Wishing you and your boyfriend and both your families the best of luck.

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clarissacantexplainitall • Jan 6, 2019
Honey, the sad reality is there are married woman on here that struggle to get their husbands to help with children they both created. Unfortunately, it's easier for a man (or boy) to walk away because the life of your child doesn't form inside him for 9 months. Not that there isn't an attachment there but it is not the same. Better to be prepard love ❤ I have an old coworker who had her baby at 14 & she is one of the best moms. Her children do not lack a thing but she works her butt off to keep it that way. You can do it mama, you just gotta focus & put yourself in the mindset that everything you do is not just for you but for your baby. Good luck ❤

Ja

Jazmyn • Jan 6, 2019
Trust me, nobody ever thinks their man will leave them till they leave them. I’m in a happy relationship expecting baby number two with my boyfriend but I have my own money saved up that I don’t touch Incase god forbid he decides to walk out on us we will be ok. And you’re very welcome. You came on here for advice not to be bashed. Literally message me anytime

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
Thank you so much! ♥️ yes there’s a possibility of him leaving but I honestly don’t think he will. This was a very helpful message

ca

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You NEED to tell your parents.

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rherr❤️ • Jan 5, 2019
There is never a right time

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
Yes I know. I’m just trying to find the right time

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I got pregnant when I was 14 too. I’m 29 now and my son is turning 14 next month! It was so hard on me but we’re here. We made it! Life is great. Message me if you need any advice ❤️

Em

Emma • Jan 6, 2019
Thanks so much! 💕

vd

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I know you are scared. But you literally can’t do this alone at 14 you HAVE to come clean and tell your parents. I was scared to tell mine at 19. But life happens sometimes.

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vdm • Jan 5, 2019
Girl there really isn’t ever a good time, I probably told my mom at the worst possible time tbh 🤦🏻‍♀️

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
I’m just trying to find a good time

Fa

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Well then this is sad.... a 14 year old getting some and having a baby and I’m over here struggling to even find someone that likes meSorry I’m trying to lighten up the mood here Hehehe
Well then this is sad.... a 14 year old getting some and having a baby and I’m over here struggling to even find someone that likes meSorry I’m trying to lighten up the mood here   Hehehe

Em

Emma • Jan 6, 2019
😂 I needed this

ma

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You have to tell your parents or someone adult in your family you feel comfortable with. At 14 you need some adult advise/guidance. I’m so sorry you’re in this situation but you have options. Please explore them please be open to them. I’m happy to hear you bf isn’t a complete child and is being there for you. Creating life is a serious responsibility. 🤗🤗

Em

Emma • Jan 5, 2019
Yeah he’s a very sweet guy. He really cares about me and isn’t putting the blame on me for this happening. He’s very mature.

De

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It Will Never Be The "Right Time" To Tell Them But You Need To Tell Them AS SOON AS POSSIBLE! It will Never Be The Right Time Because Your So Young. The Soomer The Better

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Destiny • Jan 6, 2019
It Was Cool When I Was Around 12 Or 13 And So I Started Doing It And Now Its A Habit The Only Time I Dont Do It Is When Im Mad Or When Im In A Hurry But For The Most Part Its Just Habit And It Feels Weird To Type Regularly. Of Course With The Exeption Of Texting My Boss Or Things Like That I Wont But Its Just Habit Lol

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anonymous hoe • Jan 5, 2019
okay so this is totally irrelevant to the post but why do you capitalize the first letter of every word?? lol i’ve seen a lot of people type like that on here and I don’t get why 😅

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Destiny • Jan 5, 2019
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