Venting a little...

My husband doesn’t want me to do ANYTHING it seems like. We have a 19 month old and if anything I want to do involves me going outside for instance, since it would mean him being in the house handling the little one, he pulls this bull shit excuse “I don’t want you doing that, I’ll take care of it”

But A-it doesn’t get done in a timely manner

And B-being 39 weeks pregnant and just leisurely cleaning our car out is much easier on me than chasing a 19 month old/getting up and down off the floor for diaper changes and picking up and and putting her down constantly.

Asked him to take the trash to the dumpster by the road (I had taken it out of the can and set it in the kitchen until he was ready to run it out). After picking up our toddler from the sitter, it was still in the kitchen and of course she wanted to play with it. So i put it on the porch. Told him it was there and to please take it to the road. Naturally the next morning it was on the porch still with holes in the bag where a cat or coon go into it. He yelled at me last time I took it to the road because “I don’t want my pregnant wife carrying a 40 lb bag of trash”

But me carrying the laundry baskets and toddler and cooking and all the cleaning in the house, that’s totally fine...?!???

I want my car cleaned out before baby arrives. Simple enough. But I’m not allowed to go do it. I was promised it would get done this weekend and hmmm it’s his Special Sunday Lazy Day so my guess is that it’s not going to happen. I also have loads of baby items in our garage (we moved 3 weeks ago) and id love to sort through them before baby arrives so I’m not looking for it all when he gets here. But no, “it can wait” or “it’s fine” or “don’t worry about it” because that means he’s responsible for whatever Willow needs and would probably be interrupted from playing his video games.

I’m so irritated by it. He actually had the nerve to sound grumpy when I said I was going to lay in the warm bath for my back for a few minutes (you know because HES tired after I get out of bed 5 times last night between peeing and managing our little one who woke up at 5:00 AM.......)

I’m cleaning the car today and he can kiss it.