Boyfriend doesnt like to go to family gatherings/parties

Hi this is my first time posting this. I'm 23 & my boyfriend is 26 going to 27 this year. We've been together for 1year and 10 months. I'm not going to lie, but I'm head over heels for him. He doesnt like clubbing or drinking. Doesnt smoke, is a great son to his parents. Very responsible handling money. & stays fit for the most part. He treats me well.

I've let this slide a couple of times. For example not attending birthday dinners. Or simply a small gathering of blowing the birthday cake. I have a very close family. I'm very family oriented. Family is very important to me considering that my mother is disabled and I take care of her.

I always keep in mind that I dont want to force him to do anything that he wouldn't want to do. Just like he does to me. BUT FAMILY IS VERY IMPORTANT TO ME.

My family is now growing, meaning, little ones are coming from my close cousins that I grew up with. & we are throwing her a small baby shower. Now I've let slide all my siblings birthdays and all holidays. But he wouldn't want to go to a simple baby shower.

Now for some reason this hurt me so much that I had to write all this. It hurt me so much that omw home from his house I was crying my eyes out. Just thinking if I'm doing something wrong. Or if my wants and needs are different than his.

I'm trying to think and think and think for a reason or a way to just stop caring so much about this but I simply dont know what to do. Now I'm in my car typing this post with tears running down my cheeks.

PLEASE BE BRUTALLY HONEST WITH ME. AND TELL WHAT I NEED TO SEE. OR DO.

PLEASEE.