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Not racist. Find ways to connect to your culture and heritage through literature, art, music, etc. Belonging is a human need but it starts internally- belonging in your own skin and body and your relationship with yourself. Do what you can to nurture your own identity development and self esteem. Heal from your past traumas and the microaggressions you received in the past. One day, you’ll be old enough to live wherever you want. But in the mean time, think of this time as your time of exile. Exile (any separation from your community of belonging) is an initiation process where you learn your core values and grow into who you are and want to be.
Schools and racist?
So I am biracial and I am black and white. I grew up with my dad in the urban area and then a couple years ago I moved with my mom in elementary school in the suburbs and I had lots of issues with loving myself on being a brown skinned curly headed girl. I had so many issues because my school was predominantly white and I wanted to be like everyone else. So in my middle school years I moved to suburbs/urban that was very diverse and I loved how curly my hair was and I made friends with every ethnicity race and culture. But now in high school I have to move the rural area and I’m scared that my little sister is going to not love herself when she gets into Elementary school. I’m also scared that I’m not going to fit in and in later life and my sister is not exposed to different backgrounds. I told my mom and she said that I sound racist because I said it’s not diverse enough. But I don’t mean to be racist AT ALL I want to be around every culture. What do guys think am I overreacting any advice?
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I see where you are coming from. And I definitely don't think you are racist. However, I feel like you are assuming a lot of things. Just because you felt one way does not mean your sister will. I also feel like you are not even giving your new school a chance and have already decided how you and your sister will feel. I think that you are concerned for a Valid reason. However, give it a chance and help your sister if you see that happening.
How is saying somewhere isn’t diverse enough racist? But I know how you feel, I went to a prodominantly white school for just one year of middle school, and let me tell you that one year tore my self love up smh. Good thing my parents put me back in my old school and I was better but it does mess with you. But since you know what to come prepare your sister, tell her the brutality of how things may be and teach her how to love herself despite any differences or what others may say. That will help her if things are still as bad
Its a rural area, theres black rural areas, white rural areas, asian erc. Most rural areas dont havr much diversity because they are small towns. You will have some in your life, and people are more accepting of eachother now. Nog even sorry when i say this, all teenage girls can be bitchy and catty so no matter what color the people are the girls will still be bitchy as a teenage girl
I don't think what u r saying is racist, but I do think u r overreacting. Every persons experience is different. I am a POC with curly dark hair and when I was about 9 years old I moved to a rural area where I was the only POC in my class (maybe even my school). That never bothered me. In fact I actually liked being different and was proud of my culture/race/haritage. So I dont think u need to be so worried about ur little sister. Every person will experience life differently.
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