Hi Ladies! Sorry, this is going to be long but I truly need your help. Now, I usually don't go to anyone about issues in my marriage, I'd normally just bottle it up and move on. However, it's becoming harder to do so, plus I promised myself that 2019 will be my year to seek help and no deal on my own.

The current issue: my husband and I use to talk about everything. He could come to me with whatever he was feeling or for support, he still can. I would go to him but now, not so much. I feel alone in this marriage. I feel as though I can't be myself with him, as if I'm walking on eggshells to guard his feelings. A couple days ago he stopped talking to me and would walk around me, avoiding conversation. All because he was yelling from our bathroom, down the hall to our daughter, while the baby and I were sleeping. My exact words to him were "why are you yelling? Call her in or go out there but the baby was sleeping" Now, I was up all night doing homework and dealing with a sick child, so when the big kids were off to school, I went to sleep, but apparently he didn't like the idea. He came a second time, this time poking me and really loudly, asking me if I needed anymore bathroom wipes, since he's making the list. He already knew the answer to that because the shelf were they're kept was empty. I again said "please stop yelling, I'm right here " he goes "you only think I'm loud because you're tired, but whatever" and walks out. I didn't see him for hours after that while he worked on the car.

My father who's visiting from Trinidad came up fully dressed and asked me if I'm going shopping with them. I told him that I'm waiting on dh and he said my husband is waiting on me because he's dressed and ready.

I go down and asked him why didn't he tell me he was waiting and he goes "well I don't want you to yell at me for talking too loud, so I figured when you're ready you'd come to the car? Wtf??? I ignored it because I figured in true form, he's playing victim because I didn't like him yelling at me while I'm sleeping.

Now we're at the store and I literally have to chase him down to put things in the cart, he's walking away, acting like he's not hearing me when I call and just being real ugly. I stopped him and said I need to put the things in the cart. He walks away, leaving the cart behind. I dropped the things in and went about my shopping. I find him a few minutes later, checking out. Again, wtf???

Later that night my dad, him and I watch a couple movies, he was drinking so he was over the moon, making jokes, talking to me normally, just chillin.

Today now, he's back to giving me attitude. I'm driving and he's going on about the turns I make, the speed I'm driving, just going on about everything I was doing.

A couple hours before he leaves for work, I asked if he's eating dinner, had to ask twice before he shock his head no. I put his lunch in his bowls but couldn't find his lunch bag, so I asked him and I still don't know where it is, as he didn't answer. He left without saying a word to me, even after I asked what's wrong 😔

At this point, I'm tired of initiating the conversation, only to be ignored or treated like I'm bothering him. He's being rude, and never sees when he's wrong. It's taking too much effort to spend one day handling anything with him and I don't know why. I can't talk to him and I don't see us lasting much longer. This isn't the first time we're having this problem and there's never any resolve, he just starts talking to me when he feels like it and I just suck it up and move on.

I hate that we're here, I'm actually trying but it seems he doesn't care. If I'm wrong, I'll take it but I'm done apologizing for shit I didn't do. I know it's not my fault but he'll never own up to anything. He'd rather stay mad, not speak for a few days and then come back like everything's fine. Deep down I feel so bad because I don't know what the problem is and I can't fix it. 😢😢