Is he getting comfortable or losing interest?

Ive been w my husband for 5yrs, we have 2 kids, one on the way.

Anyways, i feel like hes losing interest in me, but i honestly dont even know too, there will be days where hes very affectionate towards me, wants to be w me, wants to cuddle, while most days he seems to be annoyed by my presence, but still wants to cuddle close to me in bed. Idk, maybe hes also just very stressed w work, and its making him lose interest in me. Who knows.

When he drinks, hed tell me how hes so tired of living w me and the kids. Hes so annoyed by me. Everything i do is wrong to him, even the way i sit.

But yea, sex died down to 3x a mth, he still masturbate to other women 2-3x a week though. Hes also beginning to check out and have eyes for other women online, and in public.

He doesnt spend time w me anymore, but will talk to me about his problems, work, and future plans before bedtime. We havent had dates for the last 3yrs.

Whenever we argue, hed threaten to hit, leave, and cheat on me all the time.

But he also told me the last 2mths that he thinks im more attractive than i was before, and that hes lucky to have me. Idk, his behavior towards me is just on and off.