Hormones or PPD??

Question

I'm a stay at home mom to a almost 3yr old boy. 5 days ago I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I love them both to death but ever since I got home from the hospital I been down. Hate to say this but I feel like I made a mistake by having another baby. My son is having a hard time adjusting, and on top of that he is a little sick. He whines all day and cries for every little thing. My husband was given 10days to be home with us and it has helped a lot. He is in the army and once he goes back to work he will be going to training weeks at a time. I'm nervous and scared to be home alone. I have done it before with my son but w 2 kids I know it will be different. We live far from family so we have no one to help. We hate it here, is so boring and I don't know anyone. I stay home pretty much 24/7. I keep crying feeling like shit. Feeling guilty for feeling this way. I don't want to tell my husband because I don't want him to feel like is his fault. I'm hoping these feelings will pass and is just some left hormones from giving birth. Or could it be the start of PPD?

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Oh honey!  I’m so sorry to hear you’re having a hard time.  Just want you to know that this is 1000000% normal & to be expected!!  Your body is adjusting to a lightening speed shift/decline in hormones that it will ever experience & you are probably extremely exhausted & emotional/physically taxed from labor & caring for 2 very needy mini humans!  It would be more surprising to hear that you’re feeling well at this point.  Give yourself some room to allow for these shitty feelings to work themselves out.  You just created 2 lives in the past 3 years & your full range of emotions toward your journey is completely justified- whatever they may be at that moment.  Maybe try journaling- even if it’s one line a day (I know you don’t have any free time right now)- so you can reflect on these monumental chapters of change in your life.  Just try to focus on how proud of yourself you are for ushering 2 people into this world & keeping them alive!  Every damn day is an accomplishment worth celebrating when you’re a parent- especially a mother of a newborn!  So regardless of how you are feeling right now- just know you fucking rock, & other mothers can totally empathize with how you’re feeling.  It takes a village even if your village happens to be of the digital variety.  We’re all in this together 🙏🏼🤝💪🏼🤱🏼🤰🏼💞

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I have a 2 year old and an 11 day old and I’m a single mom. I cried so much after I brought my youngest home. My older daughter is just very defiant and constantly telling me no and the lack of sleep and the hormones I basically just cried for the first 2 or 3 days. Every time I disciplined my toddler and she cried, I cried. Noise overwhelmed me and I’d cried. Realizing how big my 2 year old is now, I’d cry cause she’s not a little baby anymore. Just constant crying. I’m doing a lot better now that the hormones are settling though. I think it’s normal.

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Gosh I don’t have much advice but I can So relate to your post. We planned for our first but relocated in the early summer(hubby is Air Force) and became pregnant only a month after our move. We were only just discussing if we should have a second or not then wam! It was decided. Being in a new place, away from family, with a toddler(ours is 20 months old currently) and pregnant is HARD. I had to quit the new job I had, due to getting SPD early on and have been home bound since.. so add on financial struggles too! It’s very very difficult! And I’m less than 90 days away from adding our second. My anxiety is through the roof! I just keep trying to center myself with inspirational quotes and bible verses/devotionals to get me through this time. I try to remind myself this is a phase.. and one day will look back at the struggle and see how strong I am.. as a woman, wife and a mother. Even in our weakest moments.. you’re not alone. Just take it ONE day at a time. That’s it. Each day you get thru is a victory! No one has as many roles on the planet as us women do.. it’s amazing what we are truly capable of, even when we think we can’t go on. 
I hope this is somewhat helpful.. just know there is another woman appreciating your struggle. HUGGSSS!

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I’d say both. You had a baby 5 days ago and your hormones are trying to level out, and this is around the time PPD can kick in. It’s best to seek help and get evaluated. Good luck and just know you aren’t alone. My son will be 2 in May and my daughter is due 2 weeks before that and I am shitting myself and my husband is military too and goes to the field monthly for 1-2 weeks at a time so I am already scared about it. But just know that it’s all temporary and your son will come around. It’s a huge adjustment going from 1 to 2 for an adult...for your son it’s probably a huge deal for him. I would try and find ways to spend time with just him or let him help out so he feels important and not forgotten. I hope it gets better soon.

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I would say its hormones. You just had a baby 5 days ago, you need time for your body to adjust. I completely understand your anxiety about being alone! My husband doesnt go away like your husband does but even him just going to work for a few hours gave me bad anxiety!! You will get through it and will be ok!  You got this mama! ❣️ 
P.S. this app has really been a great support group for me so just vent out your fears and frustrations in here when needed.

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