Just upset and needing a vent.

My partner and I have one child who is almost two. We planned to ttc in April/May/June. Last night I explained why I felt our relationship really needed the wait. We haven’t been loving lately. We drank a bit of rosé, normal for us. And he wanted to do shots, he is NOT a drinker. I said yes to one and he did two. We had sex like planned and he did not tell me when he was close to cumming, just came in me. He normally at least asks or let’s me know he’s close so I can say pull out. (Don’t say pull out doesn’t work, we use family awareness method and pull out and have only had a pregnant when we wanted, FAM is 99% effective when done correctly. I’m so upset and feel violated.