When will the worry stop?

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Good Evening ladies, I'm here again having so much anxiety worrying about the baby. I've had great ultrasounds and I heard the baby's heartbeat a few days ago on my doppler which made me so happy. But I have been having decreased appetite and it seems like my bloating has gone down. I'm 8 weeks 4 days and this is usually when I have my losses. So my anxiety is at a all time high. I couldn't find the heartbeat again and I dont have another appointment until next week at 9+5. I'm so terrified, I wish I could just be happy and not think so negative.

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Trust your body and know that no amount of worry will change any outcome. Most people don't find a heartbeat that early on a fetal Doppler Bc baby is so small. I'm 10 weeks and still can't find it but I've been to the dr and everything is fine. At my ob they don't try to use a Doppler until 12 weeks. Unless you're bleeding and cramping just relax and enjoy the ride. You don't want to spend your whole pregnancy miserable with fear.

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I agree with what Manda said. I had a loss last summer at 11w1d and now I’m 8w4d. I go through periods of being so anxious because I don’t really have any symptoms yet. I had a good ultrasound yesterday and that eased my fears somewhat. I think I will always worry but I try to remember that worrying won’t change anything, so I’m trying my best to stay happy and positive for this baby. Good luck to you and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy and get to hold your rainbow in August.

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It's super early for the doppler. You may find it one day and not the next.  I found my 12 month old at 11 weeks and have days till about 14/16 weeks when I couldnt find it. 
I never had a loss. But the worrying never stops.  My son and this baby I am high risk due to the potential of the cord to clot due to my health and medication I take to control it. 
I had ultrasounds with my son at 8,11,12,18,26,29,32,35,38. And each one was nerve racking and the fear he wasn't okay.  I had an anterior placenta and only felt him a few times a day and went a couple times not feeling him for a day or so as he didn't move in the areas I could feel him.
The worrying never stops I swear. 
At 3 months I didn't know he could roll. He was having naps on. And I went to the bathroom real quick and he fell off.  I felt wrecked. 
At 9 months  he dislocated his elbow... At which point I kept crying that my baby was broken. 
At 10 months I was at my mother in-laws he couldn't sleep so that night we co-slept. He sleeps in my left arm with his hear on my chest so I can feel him move. As I sleep light I woke up due to my arm being sore.  And he was breathing but  just felt limp in my arms. Took me 5 minutes to come too. I was never so scared in my life. 
At 11 months he got the flu. My poor baby threw up so much first 2 days I got him to drink   his bottles (well juice and water as his formula/homo made him throw up instantly) day 3 he started to refuse all together. And had very little wet diaper output. We took him to the hospital he was admitted and rehydrated. And then discharged 12 hours later. As he wasn't vomitting but was told as long as he was drinking something and had wet outputs even little he would be okay.  If he threw up again bring him back. My poor baby wouldn't let me leave his side I was covered in puke. 
Now to add number 2. I think I'm going go nuts with this constantly worrying   😭😭😭
 Just try to relax the best you can and just stay positive..

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When baby born honestly and then you have a whole world of other worries I had a miscarriage etc in July 2018 and I’m now 11 weeks pregnant again and I’m absolutely terrified that have lost or going to lose baby I make myself ill before I get ultrasound with worry it all over I have had 3 scan one at 5 weeks one at 7+3 and one at 8+3 all showed a devolping baby and the last two I could see baby heartbeat I honestly don’t think worry ever leaves it just changes what we worry about as our children grow from bump to baby to toddler etc all I can say is enjoy it weather you have a baby you only carry in your heart or one you carry in your arms or that was taken to soon enjoy the time you have with the blessing you have be giving and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months 🥰

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Thank you ladies for all the advice! I really really appreciated it all! I will definitely try to take your advice and be more optimistic!

When will the worry stop?

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