Venting

Nothing gets me more upset than when someone says this. At least once a week someone at my workplace has said this to me. The only ones that didn't were the ones that have lost a baby. They all knew I was pregnant then they all found out I miscarried. I know they mean well but it definitely does not help. I would never say this to someone that I know has gone through a loss because I know it did not help me if anything it made me hurt more. One thing I have learned from this miscarriage is that I now can relate and understand the hurt that other women go through. Used to I would hear of someone losing their baby and I would say something like "I hate to hear that" and move on, but now when I hear it a little piece of my heart breaks for that woman, or that couple. People assume saying this will make the person (or couple) feel better, but it don't. I have sat there and wondered countless times if I wasn't good enough to be a mom. I just stop talking when a person says "it's God's will and everything happens for a reason."