Baby breech-chose c-section, am I bad mother?

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Hi All,

I am sorry for maybe long post but since I returned from the hospital I do not feel very good about the choice I did today.

To explain - we have tried to have a baby for more than 4 years. We did 4 unsuccessful <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">ivf</a> cycles, 1 miscarriage. And before 5th transfer I have miraculously felt pregnant.

The whole time I was afraid of losing the baby and prayed that all finishes well.

At 36 weeks my baby is still breech and looks he is pretty big already (3kg)

In hospital they have me today choice if I want to wait for natural delivery and « try » to deliver breech baby. Of course with no guarantee that at the end I won’t finish with c-section. Or if I want to schedule directly the c-section with « all the problems this can bring to baby » such a health and psychical problems later.

I chose to have a c-section as delivery seemed to me more risky way. Now I feel like I am putting my baby in danger because he can be later ill :-(

You can judge me if you want - I will be happy for every feedback

Thank you ladies for reading

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You’re in no way a bad mother for choosing c-section! You’re just choosing what you feel is the safest route for your baby and yourself! There is absolutely no shame in that! I’m sure you’ll be a great mom!

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Ughhh I hate how so many women on these boards carry guilt and fear of judgement. All our bodies are different. If someone wants to judge you it’s says more about their character. Do what you feel is best. Babies can turn even at the last minute my mom has been in a lot working LD. This is your choice!

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Thank you all for your comments :-) it made me feel really better!!!

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Try a chiropractor that specializes in the Webster technique. Got my baby to turn!!!

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C sections are available for a reason... because some women and babies would die in childbirth if they were not an option! Sure vaginal birth is “natural”... there are benefits to it for baby, BUT c-section babies aren’t automatically going to have health problems and they certainly won’t have psychological problems because of it!
I have a scheduled c-section next week because not only is baby breech, I am high risk and baby is at higher risk for birth complications and neurological injury because I am a type one diabetic. I’ve felt a little guilty... or more accurately, sad that I won’t know what it’s like to labor and try vaginal birth when other moms do... but I know that this is what is best for me and my baby and it will keep us safe. 
You will be no less a mother and you will have a healthy and safe delivery and do what’s best for you and baby! Please don’t feel guilty!

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I wish I was given the choice of being able to birth breech if I want but it’s automatically a c section if she doesn’t turn but the key word there is CHOICE whatever you choose does not make you a bad mother. There is nothing wrong with a c section or choosing to do one. I hate the shame and judgement people put on moms not for doing this or not doing this. Motherhood is hard enough without all those judgmental Judie’s putting their two cents in. You’ll rock motherhood however you get your child here!!

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I’ve never heard that delivering a baby by c section causes problems for baby later on so I can’t speak on that but at the end of the day the goal is to get the baby out in the safest way possible for both of you. If that means c section then yes you made the right decision.
C sections are not a new found Unresearched procedure and doctors are trained to do them for a reason...they work. Regardless of how baby gets here 5,10,15,20 years from now all you guys will be thankful for is you doing whatever it took to make it happen. TRust yourself mama you got this!

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I was born via c-section because I was breech.  My mom is a good mom. These things have no correlation whatsoever!

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Your body your choice.
as a mother who labored and pushed but he was to big and got stuck and ended in c-section. it certainly does not make me feel less than and my son is 100% fine. It was a positive experience for me that I have decided to elect a c-section for #2 in a few weeks. he is trending to be on the larger side so why fight it. 
if you don't feel right about it then dont move forward with it.

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There’s no shame in choosing a csection. My daughter was an unplanned csection due to breech presentation. She is extremely healthy and is often more health my than her cousin who was born vaginally. Don’t let the what if scare you as you’re doing what you feel is safest for you and baby right now! 
You can do this! Take time for yourself right now and just rest before baby comes!

Baby breech-chose c-section, am I bad mother?

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