My bf of just over two years has recently been deployed to do a short tour for a year in turkey, after that he will be stationed to Italy for 2 years but I’ll be able to fly over and see him etc and we plan to live together &a start a family etc. When we first got together he was deployed to Iraq for 6 months, it was really hard on both of us but we literally spoke every. Single. Day. And FaceTimed and sent letters etc. This time round, he doesn’t see the need to talk much on calls or ft. We agreed to talk 4 days out of every week. So we will talk on Tuesday, Thursday, Friday & Saturday. When we do talk, on the first two days he only wants to talk for like 20-30 mins and on the weekends we talk for roughly an hour or two. We obviously text but even then it isn’t that much. I get he is busy of course but even if he’s just gone to the store or so he won’t reply even if it’s a 5 second msg. Anyway, I asked him if we could talk for more than an hour once or twice out of the week and he said he doesn’t want to and that an hour is enough for him. It kinda hurt my feelings how he doesn’t want to talk more than an hour on call even if he isn’t busy? I just feel 3 hours a week isn’t really much being so far apart. And since it was different the first time round it just hurts. My question is, when your bf/ husband/ gf/ wife were deployed how many days/ how many hours would you talk for when you did call? Do you think an hour when we do call is enough? I just dont know .. it seems I’m hurting more and it’s hard on me a lot more this time than him.