So my boyfriend (now fiance) ask me to marry him on Christmas and of course I said yes, the only problem is our families aren't the most accepting of the relationship. We both decided that we would keep it a secret for a year to try and win their approval before the "I do's". However, as of lately he really wants to tell everyone. His reasoning is that his family won't care and my family can't stop me and won't try to...and I know he's right but I feel like we should at least try get them to like us together and be happy for us.

His parents will mostly likely just tell him they don't approve but know they can't control what he does. My mom and sister will tell me how I'm making a mistake and I'll regret it (more my sister than my mom, my mom has actually been changing her opinion on him since Christmas, telling me she can see how serious its getting).

I've been with him for 2 years, but before then we known and flirted with each other for 10 (almost got serious a few times but both of us had other issues to deal with before we could be with other person). I want to be with him and I want to marry him, but I'm not ready to tell my family anything just yet.

So, do you have any advice or words of wisdom to help me and my dilemma?