I've been with my partner for several years, since we were in high school. We live together. We have a pup, a car; we're building our lives together.

I have a friend who I've started to get slight feelings for. We've been talking more, and we're buds, but we tease each other a lot lately. I feel like we're not going to do anything, because I don't want to throw away my long relationship and he's understanding, of course. I can tell he doesn't want to interfere physically.

On the other hand, when my current S.O. is around other friends of mine, they get a vibe that he's not as good to me as he should be. And I see it, too, of course. We wouldn't have made it this long without arguing here or there.

Feel like I should mention that we haven't really had sex very often in the last few years, and it's probably mostly my fault. I'm usually tired or thinking about something else I need to do when he wants to.

With my friend, who, again, I haven't done anything with, I feel like if we even just *cuddled*, I wouldn't be able to stop myself.

I think I just needed to get this off my chest. I feel guilt, obviously, and I know that you shouldn't go after people who'd mess with couples, and I've been cheated on before and know it sucks. I understand the impression it would give if I messed this up.

Has anyone been in this position before? What was the outcome? I think I just haven't been in "the honeymoon stage" of a relationship for a long time, and I'm putting too much thought into it.