So this year it will be our first valentines together. I'm already planning and have alot of ideas. I was thinking of getting a massage together . My boyfriend has told me that he has never got a professional massage done before. Where I'm from its expensive but he is worth it so it's all good

Anyways how do I ask my boyfriend if we are doing anything for valentines day in a way that doesn't make him feel forced?

Also he has more responsibilities then me so I find want it to be to expensive for him. He will never admit it to me but I know that he is having a hard time.