Before y’all go crazy on me, let me explain why it’s hard, and some days I need to vent...

I work extra hard for my stepkids, so that they can have a great upbringing, with lots of love and fun. I go out of my way for them so much, but it just sucks that I never get the appreciation or love back. Even though they have grown to love me over time, I am always the “other woman,” and they always wish in the back of their minds that I wasn’t apart of the picture. It’s hard for me

Dealing with BM.. while she isn’t the worst I’ve heard, it still just makes my skin crawl knowing that my husband’s ex, who he had sex with, loved, was romantically with, has to see him all the time, he has to contact her and see her constantly. I get it, yeah, “it’s just for the kids,” but it still doesn’t change the fact she’s his ex and he has to call or talk to or see her on the regular. Yes, I get it, it’s for the kids.. but fuck, it’s hard!

Another thing, they had a traditional family together, just them and their kids, no ex’s, nothing. I’m jealous of what they had.

I know that I “signed myself up for this” when I knew he had kids when we started dating, but lord knows, I had no idea how hard it would be.

I just feel like there is nothing I can do but suck it up and live with it. I try to push my feelings aside and do everything I can to make the kids happy and live a great life and live vicariously through them.

I forgot to mention I have a little one with my husband, a 7 mo old. His kids are great to her, but still make comments about me not being their mom so it’s not the same, and... well, it’s just hard.

I feel like, as a stepmom, your feelings are always pushed to the side, and “how dare you feel this way because it’s all about the kids”. Some days, it’s just really hard.

Okay. Rant over. Venting over. I now feel better and can carry on with my day.

Anyone else ?

****updating this... some of y’all have the wrong idea. His kids are my life.. I do more for them than their mom has. They are my little best friends, and we have a great relationship. My husband compliments and thanks me all the time for being so good to them. I apologize if this post made it seem different. I have told them that I am in no way trying to take their mom’s place, that I am just “me” and will always be there for them. There is a lot to this. This was Literally just a rant, just one vent session. I think I deserve a little vent sesh..