Here’s the backstory: So last year I started hooking up with this guy. Then he turned weird. Like, leaving 100 of oragami birds in my room when I’d be gone with notes, always finding out when my roommate wasn’t home and trying to come over and stay over, being possessive about what I’d be doing, and one time he came over and tried to make moves on me but I’d awkwardly laugh it off and go stop but he wouldn’t listen and tried to pin me down and I kept saying to stop and get off but also laugh uncomfortably. He finally stopped but he didn’t go far. Is this my fault? Then he took a semester off and came up to visit. When I found out he was up to visit (his friends not me) I got hospitalized that weekend because I got intoxicated and was having severe panic attacks because of it. Another time he came up, he wanted to visit and I said fine because I felt like we needed to

Talk to set it straight. To tell him to leave me alone and again he tried stuff but listened quicker when I said no.

Now he’s back at school. He was in the same room as me (I didn’t see him but a friend said he was there) and it set me off. I got really upset and later that night had panic attacks. The following night I drank a bit and then starts freaking out abiut him and started hurting myself and again got hospitalized.

Now the school said they might be opening an investigation on him. They only know the stalking tendencies. Not how he tried stuff. I don’t want to ruin his life. Maybe I should have been more clear? Maybe I led him on? I feel like this is my fault..

advice?