My boyfriend and I have been fighting about his ex .

She’s basically part of his family like her uncle married one of his aunts or some bullshit . And basically a few months ago he lied about her being his cousin because I asked who he had been talking to . He was like oh shes just my cousin and when I went to follow her on ig as I do the rest of his family he got so angry and called me crazy for doing it .. fast forward he admitted that he lied to me after I found facebook posts from a few years ago from her on his page basically saying I love you and shit .

He said he lied to me bc he was afraid of how I would react and that he would tell me things and if I don’t react badly . Which to me sounds like “ oh I’ll tell you the truth on my terms and conditions “ which is bullshit .

Since that incident he went to a sweet 16 and she was there and he didn’t tell me she was sitting right next to him . And the thing is idc about the bitch I care that he hides things . And he’s so sure he had told me .

Anyway today we were fighting bc i told him I hate that he hides things from me and I feel like I can’t trust

Him . And i asked him if he could promise me not to talk to her anymore or say hi to her if shes at family stuff . And he’s like “ im not an asshole like you i can’t ignore her “

And basically my point is idc about the bitch I’ve run into my exes and they’ve said hi to me and I walk right past them .

He blatantly then said that “ Idc about your stupid little “ commands” I haven’t cared about them for the past 5 years .”

I basically told him that he only acts like this bc I’ve never lied to him or cheated and he’s lied to me so many times . I know I was wrong for this but I said so if I cheat on you and disregard your request for loyalty and you complain is it not my fault ?

What he said really hurt me bc it basically told me that I can’t trust him at all bc he doesn’t care about my feelings or what I say . Is what i asked of him so difficult ? I don’t want him talking to her anymore or any of his exes for that matter . Especially not hiding things from me ...

I was so upset that i said “ idk what I’m doing with you “

And I left his house .

I want to break up with him bc i now feel like I can’t trust him bc of what he said about not caring about my requests. And idk if I’m over reacting or not.

My car is currently in the shop and he was going to drive me to an interview i have and i want to tell him not to and ask my mom or someone else instead .

Thoughts ? Advice ?