lately his reasoning skills and sense has gone out the window and its making things impossible.

So he has been unemployed for a year. Was going to get a Job 6 months ago but he would have needed more time and money to be able to make money from it. So he lived off his savings for a while. Fair enough just means cheaper dates, less gifts whatever.

I started paying for more, like his tickets to come see me and groceries sometimes just to help him. during Xmas break when we were out on a date (that I paid for) and he lost his card somewhere on the way. So I gave him a spare card I have. A separate little account I only had for travelling abroad because the account wouldn't have fees like mine usual one does. I gave it to him to use to travel to college with til his new card came. I put like £50 on there that would last like 2weeks of travel to his college.

A week goes by a few other charges of getting lunch come up. I don't say anything. Fair enough he doesn't have his card hes hungry. But this weekend he visits me. His new card has come and he tell me has has around 160 on it. Not much to live on. But he started his new job. Will be working weekends from now on. He's back to college yesterday and I see more charges of lunch popping up. Even though I packed him a lunch and he has his own card now.

I text him when he left college. Asking him to just use that card to get to college. And if he wasn't going to use it for that he should have just left it with me. He then completely flips his shit. Saying he'll never accept my help because it's conditional. That I'm selfish because he took me on a date the night before with "the last of his money" (£17, because I had a discount code to get most of my food free) saying I never actually want to help ect. When I only agreed to pay to get him to college til he could get himself to college. I didn't agree to buy his lunch. Most people wouldn't even agree to do that. They would leave it to his family.

At that point the card only had £9 on it. It costs about that to travel to college and back. So him spending £6 on lunch was just irresponsible. But he wouldn't hear it. I was just bitching and being rude. I was just using him. (Some how because he hasn't done shit for me in months.) He broke the card, and sent me money from our joint paypal and told me to leave him alone

I genuinely think he needs help. I know he might be insecure because he doesn't have much money. But abusing the money I give him then acting like I'm a bad guy really isn't helping him. I'm leaving him alone and this is probably going to be the end of our relationship not that I really want it to be. But I can't help him with whatever he is going through and I can't have him acting how he is towards me. 😔