I don’t really know who I could talk to about this besides my husband which I have but feel that nothing’s is happening.

My husband and I before we were married had sex ALL THE TIME. Seriously like it was our job. Jump to when we get married. We had a pretty rough start but worked everything out and are super happy and in love. But ever since that rocky start he 1) doesn’t want sex almost ever and when we do I feel like he feels like it’s a chore. 2) has gained weight.

I feel like a part of it is that he has some mild depression and he doesn’t find it as fun and exciting anymore which in turn makes me feel not as sexy and self conscience about anything I do sexually. (Side note, we were LDS and we didn’t tell anybody we were having sex and it made us do it and want it more)

Anyways, i talked to him and he said that it’s normal for people to lose interest when they are older and have been together for so long 😭 (he is 24 and I’m 22 and we’ve been together for 4 years) it broke my heart to hear this. He doesn’t think anything is really wrong and he doesn’t want sex anymore and it sucks you guys. Everyone is always like, it’s the girl who never wants it but not for me and idk what to do.

Idk if counseling would work because he wouldn’t want to talk to someone about it, he won’t take testosterone, maybe we could read/listen to a book? Idk what to do and honestly I feel like my sex life is pretty screwed up because of the LDS church on top of it all.

It’s just a lot right now for me and I feel pretty alone about it all. All that being said he loves me and is very good about trying to work things through, I know we can get through this I just don’t even know where to start. Plus I’m like 32 weeks pregnant. But i look damn good 💁🏼‍♀️ (this has been going on since we basically got married 2 years ago, so i don’t think it’s pregnancy related, but i probably am more sensitive to it)