Sorry long post!!

So my husband and I have been together close to 4 years. Sex was amaaaaazing at first. He was really excited to try new positions and experiment with toys. Unfortunately that stage that only lasted about 6 months. Ever since then I feel like our sex life has deteriorated. The Foreplay stopped and the sex became routine - I hop on, I hop off when he's done (yes when he's done, he never finishes me!!).

I've mentioned to him on numerous occasions that I want to spice things up, try new positions and start doing foreplay again. His reactions are either "there's nothing wrong with our sex life", or he tries to play the victim card by being all upset that he can't pleasure me. Sometimes he will say "that it's a great idea" but whenever it come to actually doing the deed, we're right back to the same old missionary position and I'm left 1/2 way to an orgasm which I'm left to finish off myself.

Recently I've started going down on him to try and initiate foreplay and get things started. He'll occasionally finger me for about a minute then be like "come on, let's do it" (how romantic right?). He sometimes asks if I want him to go down on me, but it's gotten to the point where it almost feels too awkward and forced to say yes.

If anyone has any advice on how to spice things up or encourage him to step out of his comfort zone it'd be appreciated! Im so lost for ideas, I thought communicating what I wanted and how I feel would help but it's really not😩