so the last week or so ive got our 20 month old into a certain routine when going to bed aka what happens when its about time for him to get into bed in the bedroom like nappy change and pyjamas and how he is tucked in etc however tonight his dad put him to bed and did it slightly different to the way i been doing it and our son didn't settle straight away like he does when i have been putting him to bed ... when i went to show partner how i do it he goes "ill put him to bed the way I want to the way you put him to bed will be different to the way I put him to bed" ... am i right or wrong to think that when you have a routine both should do it the same way? to give consistency and so the child realises that one parent isnt going to let them get away with something the other wont or that they know what going to be happening next?