I had an abortion May 2018. Every now again I get really sad (moved to tears) thinking about how I didn’t even know I was pregnant, and chose to terminates a healthy 6 weeks. Have you had an abortion, and felt crippling remorse?

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Do you still feel remorseful? Does it ever go away? 
When we think of what it means to be a woman and mother, we paint the picture of the first pregnancy = first child. 
Being 19 years old at the time, and financially unstable I knew no matter how much I wanted that baby and still do, I could never have taken care of it the way it needed. 
Made me feel shitty. I thought to myself “maybe those pro-life ppl are right.” I cant say I’m happy I did it, but the love I have for my unborn baby will definitely overflow onto my future children. 
Please feel free to share your thoughts with me. I look forward to hearing similar stories. ❤️

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How did you get an abortion if you didn’t know you were pregnant ? Not judging here just confused.

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For me a knew it was right. Like you i didnt know i was pregant, i had an abortion at 11weeks. I was only 18 (nearly 19 at the time)
Yes there are days i feel sad, i think what life could be like now. And yes there are days when i cry. But when i think about it, i know full well i wouldnt have been able to cope with a child. I know i would have struggled and i know the child wouldnt have the best life.
When you get down, remember the reasons why you had it. I was told to write all these feelings down, all the reasons down. So when i ever got sad i could read these and remember how strong and brave i was at the time.
One day when youre ready you will have your bundle of joy 😊

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i believe women can choose to have abortions if they know that their baby won’t be taken care of because of money, health, or relationship issues etc. the same people that will say you shouldn’t have done that are almost always the same people who judge others that use government assistance because they can’t take care of their children. you knew you wouldn’t have been able to take care of that child, so while it’s perfectly normal to grieve, you did what you felt was best. we all have to make hard decisions, no one gets an abortion just because they can. don’t beat yourself up over it, it’s a crazy hard thing to do! keep your head up sis, you’re doing great!

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You get older and soon the day comes and goes and you forget that it was that date.  Life scoops you up in being busy and you don't think about it very often until someone reminds you.

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I had to make that decision early on, and for me 13 years later I know it was the best thing for me. I now have two babies and another on the way.. and I know my life would not be the same had I not made that decision. I later found out I had a heart condition that not taken care of I wouldn’t have survived the birth. There’s a reason you had the thought to abort and later you’ll realize what that was. It does get better. You’ll still think about it but it gets better.

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I had an abortion around the same time as you. I always was strongly pro-choice but even so, it was an unexpectedly difficult decision for me to make. I didn't feel guilt so much as sadness about a possible future that just wasn't meant to be. The timing wasn't right, I wasn't ready mentally or emotionally to be a parent, I was dealing with health problems that would have made it unlikely to have a healthy baby...I am at peace with my decision because I know I made the right choice. But I do sometimes feel sad when I think about what could have been, had the situation been different. 
I wish you the best and hope things get easier for you.

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Almost identical story to yours, mine was Dec 2017 and i still have the ultrasound picture. I definitely still grieve and there will always be a part of me that regrets it.. it does get better, be strong you will find your way 💜

I had an abortion May 2018. Every now again I get really sad (moved to tears) thinking about how I didn’t even know I was pregnant, and chose to terminates a healthy 6 weeks. Have you had an abortion, and felt crippling remorse?

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