Help!!! Do I need to end it?

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I’ve had so many problems with my bf but I’m just really pissed off right now at this specific thing and need to vent. So I haven’t seen my boyfriend in 2 weeks I’m 19 and he’s 22 I’m in university and we planned today (Thursday) to see each other from now until Monday. I come over and everything is good all of a sudden he gets a message from some guy he barely knows asking if he wants to come to a hockey game tomorrow. My boyfriend says I’m with my gf for the weekend can she come? Basically the guy tells him it’s only a guy night thing. Sorry. Now my bf is asking me to go home so he can go to this hockey game saying I’m selfish for not letting him go . What should I do? I’m so angry right now. We have had so many problems and I feel like if he plans on going and ditching me tomorrow that proves I’m his last priority and don’t matter at all. I don’t want to be done but I will be. Please help. What do you guys think? Am I in the wrong?

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You're not in the wrong, he had plans with you first and completely pushed you to the side. You should go home and not talk to him again. That's really weird to me

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Yooooo that’s so not cool, he made plans with you! And for those guys saying you can’t come cuz it’s boys night thats dumb. There’s other dudes that would happily ditch their friends to hang with a chick lol. So I’d say dump him🤷🏻‍♀️ and that’s just because your saying there are other issues too. I don’t think it’s worth the stress.

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Your 💯  in the right! If it was me I would go back home tonight!

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Yeah I’d ditch his ass. It’s one thing to never let him go out and do stuff but he hasn’t seen you for two weeks and is STILL choosing “friends” over you?

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Yr definitely not in the wrong, it sounds like not only is he not making you a priority, but he's also taken you for granted too.
If I was you I'd cut my loses, if anything Itl send a message to him not to take you for granted else he's gone, and honestly if he's the one for you, he won't have a choice in the matter as how he feels naturally makes your relationship a priority ..... I learnt that when I got with my husband to be, they leave you in no doubt as to how they feel.
Life is too short to be with someone who makes you feel sad and unappreciated, it also delays meeting the man yr meant to be with.
Good luck x

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I would dump his ass. That’s so disrespectful and not the way you should be treated at all.

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I don’t think you are wrong. I would 100% be pissed too. He rarely sees you and he had plans with you first. You should be a priority over some random hockey game. The fact that he’s turning it around, calling you selfish is hella manipulative and a HUGE red flag. However, if you don’t want to end it, I would leave like he asked and make sure he knows your pissed. And then I would just say, “talk to me again when you are ready to respect me and make me a priority.” If he really cares about you and your relationship, then it shouldn’t be hard for him to do. Then I would leave and not reach out to him or talk to him and let him come to you. If he doesnt, then I think your answer to your question is pretty clear and then you should end things. Sometimes people don’t know what they have until they see that they might lose it. I think he is assuming you’ll always be around and waiting for him so he can put you on a shelf and take you down when he wants to play and then put you back up at his convenience. That’s not a relationship and you are his girlfriend, not his play thing. Make sure he knows that and shows you the correct respect.

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I guess it depends. Look at it from his point of view. Did you all have specific plans, or are you just “hanging out” for the weekend? Maybe he feels like since you don’t have solid plans, what’s the big deal about spending 2-3 hours with friends in the middle? He’ll see you the whole day before, the morning of, the night after, and two days after. 🤷🏽‍♀️ You are probably important in his life, but you can’t be his WHOLE life or all of his free time. 
Put yourself in his shoes. If a girlfriend called with a fun opportunity, you might say yeah, it’s only a couple of hours. Maybe, maybe not?

Help!!! Do I need to end it?

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