Got dumped two days ago by my boyfriend of two years. He was an engineer and his communication skills are kind of horrible. he would let things fester and then explode not in violence but everything was fine until it really wasn’t fucking fine.

This whole thing, starting the weekend after thanksgiving, was seemingly out of the blue to me but according to him it’s been eight months coming. Surprisingly, I don’t feel a lot of sadness now that it is officially over as though all of my emotion got out in anticipation of when we were supposed to talk Two days ago. I considered it as a time to be apart and then come back together after having worked on our issues. He took it as a clean break with no intention of ever getting back together. I guess when people say that breaks don’t work they are right.

My emotions range from anger to brief sadness to frustration to slight hope that we could get back together in the future (we left it as we could eventually be friends). I don’t understand why he did it now considering I just had weight-loss surgery in October (I had gained a lot of weight because of emotional issues during our two year relationship) but he still seemed like he was attracted to me we had good sex he would tell me that he loved me and that he was proud of me for going through with the surgery. i’m angry that he didn’t do it sooner he waited to celebrate my graduation from college we went through my surgery together he invited me down to his aunt and uncle‘s 50th wedding anniversary and the following week we went down for his uncles funeral. Am I crazy or is he looking back at our relationship in a negative light to protect himself? I cannot find any evidence that we were unhappy we didn’t have a perfect relationship but we always seemingly came out stronger when we did go through spats.

When we did meet on Monday he was very strong cold and matter-of-fact about not wanting to date me anymore. I explained to him what I thought the break was, a time to self improve apart from each other so we didn’t nag each other, and told him how much I had changed and promised how different it would be going forward. I’ve lost 50 pounds since surgery I’ve worked on a lot of my emotional issues and I’m finally getting back into the post college job search after being stagnant for a month and a half trying to get my surgery approved.

Has anyone else seen this type of behavior? Is it a coping mechanism him or is he just a fucking asshole?