I’m the first to admit my libido is lower than when we first meant. I could’ve jumped his bones back then just whenever he walked in the room.

Now, though, things have changed. First off, it’s been three years...we currently live with my parents because my dad is sick and we are saving for a house...we work really bizarre hours...and there’s this perpetual feeling that the lifestyle we have now isn’t going to last. Everything feels so temporary.

However, I feel like my fiancé (who is a lovely person and very forward thinking) has gotten both complacent and selfish in bed.

Why do guys do this??? First of all, foreplay is out the window. Sometimes he’ll try to massage my butt when I make him do SOMETHING before jumping right on me. But even that only lasts 2 seconds. Other times, he’ll ask me to give him either a blow or hand job to help him last longer. Which, to me, just translates to: great, he’ll get off twice, and I won’t get off at all. Because ensuring that he lasts longer doesn’t actually mean he’ll focus on pleasing me any more than he usually does.

Yes I’ve talked to him. It doesn’t really go anywhere. Idk what to do or say anymore.