Okay, my daughter just turned a year old. My husband and I have a great relationship, but our sex life has never been good. And now I am at a point where I don't even want sex at all anymore. We have been together about six years, and my libido has gone nonexistent for the past three, maybe.

Well here is my idea to get out of my rut-- I think that I am so stressed out about my job and our daughter... That I need a day a week where I don't feel like I am rushing to do something.

The problem with our lives right now, is that everything is a time crunch. We wake up, we rush out the door to work, we don't get home until 7 p.m., we cook dinner, and our kid is in bed by eight.

There is no time for shopping, no time for bathing, no time to sit and contemplate life, etc... If I need to buy something, I have to do it on my lunch break. For example, I lost maybe a hundred pounds this year including my baby weight, and none of my clothes fit. And I'm not shopping at plus-size stores anymore, and trying to find work pants on my lunch break in 10 minute bursts everyday is it not working for me. (Also, for a related question- if anybody knows where to find cheap ass black business pants for fifty bucks and under to fit my big butt, let me know)

Anyway, barring the fact that I can't quit my job at the moment, and accepting the fact that my husband and I are going to try for more outings during the weekend together.....

I want to take a evening off a week to do my own thing, and relax.

I am a little conflicted about this, however because I only see my daughter for 1 hour a day basically, and for that hour she's eating and getting ready for bed.

So, I need suggestions on how to control my guilt about taking that precious time away from her, when I already want more of it with her, and ideas on things to do on my mommy day off by myself.

Wow, sorry I didn't know that would be so long.