I'm having questions about my relationship. I hate that I'm not 100% certain. We've been dating 8 months. I moved in with him when I graduated from college about 2 months ago, but I had been staying over at his place a lot before then. He's 34. I'm 27.

I hesitate to admit that sometimes I wish we had more slow, passionate sexual experiences together. I get it, we're adults, we're busy, we don't always have time. A quickie at night or in the morning is all we get. But even when we do have time he seems to struggle slowing it down. I feel like I'm not getting turned on as easily as I used to, I haven't had an orgasm in over a week. We bought a vibrator (one of those little ones that can glide around on the clit) and I managed to squeeze orgasms out that way while circling it around on myself during sex. But i'm not really getting wet during foreplay anymore, and I find myself craving intimacy more than sex. But he's just so damn easy to turn on. Then he wants me to play with it so if course I do.

I have tried to talk about it with him, mentioning that I want him to kiss me on the back of the neck more, or to touch me softer and not just grab me. It's hard to tell him that I feel like i'm missing out on slow, lovely beautiful feelings of love (physical touch is a huge love language for me). I'll caress his cheek or kiss his eyes, but he'll just grab my waist and grind against my hips. Don't get me wrong there's a time and place for that but... not ALL the time.

How would you bring this up to your boyfriend/ husband? I don't want to hurt his feelings by essentially saying he needs to be better at being intimate and loving, but i'm feeling a weird disconnect from him that scares me.

What do I do? How can I say it? We both can get a little too emotional for our own good. Any suggestions on how to talk to him about it?