Ok so ever since I was younger like 12 years and up I’ve always dealt with ovarian cysts and I mean bad ones like ones the size of soft balls. I’ve had to have some surgically removed, had the, rupture which is extremely painful and I’ve had them take months to drain on their own it’s been a life long challenge. My doctors have tried me on every birth control out there to try and prevent the cysts but none have ever helped it made them happen a little less but not really a huge change. When we decided to start ttc baby #2 we knew I’d start getting cysts like crazy again once I had my nexplanon bc removed but I didn’t care I just wanted to make my daughter a big sister. Well last week I went to the er in extremely bad pain to where I could barely move and I was screaming in pain they found a cyst on my right ovary and told me to go see my gyno doc ASAP so I did. When I went in for my apt that day my doctor told me I have 2 cysts one on each ovary completely covering both ovaries the size of baseballs and to add to it they’re hemeragic ovarian cysts (I probably miss spelled that) which means they’re blood filled cysts and I also had a lot of free fluid all in my abdomen around my ovaries so my doctor said she’s worried I’m somehow having internal bleeding. She wanted to admit me to make sure I took it easy and was extremely careful but I begged to be able to just go home and be on bed rest so she agreed but I have to come back Monday to see how things are and if they’re bigger I may have to have them surgically removed and that would mean they’d have to take both ovaries with them she said I can’t get up at all except to go to and from the bathroom, I can’t drive and I can’t go anywhere because the motion and bumps of riding in a car could cause problems. I came home and was so upset and so scared, we love with my in laws so my mother in law asked how my apt went and when I told her she was like “you need to find a new doctor someone has to be able to do something to make you stop having these cause this is just getting old” which really upset me cause it made me feel like she was looking at this as an annoyance instead of thinking a bit how it’s been affecting me. Anyways the big issue, an hour or 2 later after telling my mil this horrible news my brother in law apparently texted her and invited everyone in our family to go eat at this local pizza place and she sat there and was like “they want everyone to go so we’re all going” I then very politely told her “I’d love to but remember I can’t even get out of bed except to go to the bathroom” thinking maybe she just forgot. Ohhh no she didn’t this hateful woman looks at me with the most hateful look and says “really you can’t even just go and sit you don’t have to do anything there! They want everyone there and I don’t want you being rude and hurting their feelings by ditching this dinner!” I told her “I can’t ride anywhere in the car except that go to and from my apts if I don’t be careful I could end up loosing my ability to ever have another child” she walks off and mumbles “oh please you’d be fine but whatever” now all week long she’s made little remarks trying to pressure me into going like I’m just refusing to go cause I don’t feel like going, even going as far as to telling my 5 year old “I’m sure you’d love it if mommy would just suck it up and come with us Saturday” my husband isn’t going either because #1 he’s worried about me and wants to stay and help me and make sure I’m ok and help me with anything I need and #2 this place they’re going to is owned by his ex and her family his ex that cheated on him for years and took him for all his money and used him and she’s there 24-7. It upsets me so badly that my mil cares more about pressing me into going to make my brother in law and his hoe happy than realizing this is serious and actually giving a shit about my safety and my health! Am I in the wrong here should I force myself to go and go against medical advice just to go and make her and them happy and risk my fertility