So I'm sure a lot of step parents have gone through this in some way, shape or form, but I'm really struggling today.

My fiance and I have been together for 2 and a half years. He has a 4.5 year old son, whom I love with every bone in my body. His BM and I have been getting along really well which is great for this little boy. But today, she decided to message my fiance and freak out because someone told her he has been calling me mom, which he only ever does at home and we have never ever told him to! He just started doing it on his own a while ago. We're getting married next summer so we never thought anything of it. If he makes the choice to call me mom I am more than fine with that and if he doesnt that is okay too! Anyways so she goes on to say how it's a slap in the face and disrespectful to her and that he has a great mom. I get where shes coming from, I really do, it would not be easy to see your child wanting to call another woman mom. But let me tell you I am with him more than half time. I do not plunk him in front of fortnite (which I personally don't think any 4 year old needs to be playing) all day long when hes at our house. We play, we go out and do things, we learn and create and spend quality time together. We have an amazing bond and I feel heartbroken that it feels like I'm being pushed back to the outside.

I would never ever try to replace his mom! But what is so wrong with having 2.....he isnt any less loved. He knows who his mom is! I have never once stopped him from calling her when he misses her, or prevented her from seeing him even on our weeks. I constantly send her pictures of him or tell her how his day was when he is with us...so I'm feeling like I don't know what else to do here.

We have been TTC with no luck, I have pcos so my cycles are irregular and I dont ovulate normally, I'm on hormones now to try to get things working, but I'm just at this point now where it feels very real that I will never be a mom and I am always just going to be raising someone else's child with no respect and no appreciation and it's really fricken hard....