Can I get support form the midwife with gender disappointment?

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I found out this week that we’re having a boy. I’ve tried to accept that my dream of a little girl isn’t going to happen. I’m still finding myself crying and I feel so disconnected from him. I’m not sure if there’s any help available in the U.K. for this kind of thing? I have my 16 week app in a few days. Should I mention it to the midwife then? Or keep it to myself?

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I think this is a normal thing to go through that people don’t admit to.

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I think it’s something you should mention but its probably something you will naturally get over

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I’ve been thinking the same as I have 2 boys already and I’m pretty certain this little one is a boy too! I’ll know in 3 weeks but I wanted a girl so bad that I know I’ll be heartbroken. Of course you’ll get over it eventually and I’ll love the baby no matter what but having 2 boys already I just wanted a female to complete my family and no more kids 😂

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Definitely open up and talk about it x

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Yes . You can ask them . But I personally think she can’t help much . I see different midwife at my appointment . She probably said boy and girl doesn’t make any different as long Baby was healthy .  Anyway still your baby right .  All my midwife was not helpful, they’re always busy typing data into the computer .  Sometimes I have to ask few times they take a look at me to answer my questions .  Some even complaining how to get the data on the computer . She can’t find my details and keep searching . I just bad luck I guess .

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Yes I would talk to her as gender disappointment is an actual thing that can lead to depression. Hopefully she can help.

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It’s a perfectly normal thing to go through and your midwife will be able to point you in the right direction. If she doesn’t give you the support you need then ask for another midwife!

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I would tell her

Can I get support form the midwife with gender disappointment?

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