I’ve recently had multiple people say things to me that have made me think.

I do not have any children so I really do not know what to expect.

A new mother and friend of my husband and I told us that she doesn’t regret it but everything has changed between her husband and her. She said she doesn’t think it will ever be the same and that it’s not really a bad thing but they just no longer have time for each other and everything is just different.

Another friend of ours who has 3 kids and is a great mom and loves her children told us not to do it. She said she loves her kids but just don’t do it.

And another friend of mine told me that I shouldn’t do it because It will never be able me ever again and whatever hopes and dreams I have will go out the window. If my husband and I were to ever split up I’d be alone with a kid and no one wants to be with someone with a kid. And basically that I’m gonna be stuck in a miserable pit of doom 🙃 I’m like well damn.. haha

Like I know it won’t be able me anymore and it’ll be about my child. Of course I get that. But it’s scary to think about “my life being over” as everyone around me is making it seem.. it’s like there’s no positivity coming from any of our friends who have kids. And I just do not have any to know what it’s really like.. I never wanna lose myself completely 😞