When to tell my mom I'm pregnant

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My mom had me when she was 17 but got pregnant at 16. She was always on her own and she always drilled it in us to not get pregnant even recently she told me to stop posting so much about babies and get a puppy instead of having a baby, I'm 99 percent sure I was pregnant then. I found out yesterday that I'm 5 weeks and 1 day pregnant! I'm 19 and my fiance is 20. We just want the support from family, I live 8hrs away from everyone and I dont know how to tell her. Any suggestions!??
UPDATE: My moms birthday is tomorrow shes turning 37 and we sent this out to my mother in law and of course to my mom as a birthday present... Should be there in 2 days

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Don't worry about what she said before. People can change their mind when they really face a situation. Give her a chance, and she may be thrilled that you're pregnant. Your situation is already better than hers because you're old enough to have graduated high school and you have a partner in place, so you're not doing this alone. She has a sweet spot for little ones if she chose to keep her baby at 16 despite the challenges, and I'm guessing she's going to be so in love with your little one that she supports you 100%

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Girl, I feel you so much. I’m over here 18 going on 19 stuck on how to tell my mom I’m pregnant and I’m close to 12 weeks.. I’m 3 hours from home, but this upcoming weekend I’m gonna visit and try to build up courage and tell her. I’m financially stable so she’ll be relieved for that. But you are an adult, you are financially stable so I think your mom will be happy, yeah you’re 19 but at least you weren’t 15-17 pregnant (not saying there’s anything wrong with it) my mom also had my eldest brother when she was 17.

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It depends on your relationship with your mom but I’m sure she would want to know ASAP. She just wanted you to enjoy things she didn’t get to experience likely but IMO there’s a big age difference between you and her. Yes, she might be mad but she also might be over the moon! Likely she will be ecstatic but don’t be surprised if it takes a minute for it to sink in. From her perspective she might feel guilty or like she’s ‘failed’ you so maybe you can turn it around and tell her how glad you are that you waited until you were ready to be a mom like you know she would have wanted. I have a friend who went through this BTW with her daughter (she had her daughter at 17, and her 18yo daughter got pregnant and my friend felt guilty), this is not my experience but that’s essentially what happened with her—she felt like she wasn’t a good mom when in reality she was a great mom and even better grandma! And CONGRATS!!!

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This sounds like my mom except I got pregnant right after I was married...I just called and told her kinda bite the bullet. She wasnt thrilled at first but she came around.

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I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. Boyfriend was 21 at the time. I told her the night of her birthday, needless to say she got a pretty awesome Birthday present lol. She took it pretty well knowing we could financially support him. I was terrified of telling her but she wasn’t upset at all.

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I am 16 and pregnant and I told my mum she was disappointed but she support me I chose to keep the baby I am 5 weeks pregnant

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I had to tell my parents at that age also. They lived only 2 hours away and had come to stay at my house a day early. The father of my child freaked out when he saw them a day earlier than when we had planned to his parents and my parents out to dinner to tell then together. I made a poster, on a small poster board 1 side was blue the other pink and in the middle I had drawn a stork and it said Coming soon to a crib near you Baby Gayheart ( we were no longer together when my daughter was born so she took my last name instead) January 11th 2016. My mom knew something was up and I was trying to calm him down and she said "you're fucking knocked up arent you" and I started bawling and ran to the  bedroom grabbed my poster and shoved it at her and she called my dad over and he said cool lol. She apologized for her initial phrasing and that was that. We went to his parents house after and we put the poster on his moms  counter and he sat in the living room and I hid in the bathroom with my mom and when she came home and saw the poster she was ecstatic. So I would say get a small gift and try to make a weekend trip to visit or just send her a package and tell her to video call you when she opens it

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you kinda just have to suck it up and let it come out—that’s what i did. i was 20 when i found out i was pregnant/had my daughter. & it was definitely hard telling both my parents but i think they were happy that i was just upfront about it.

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