Sorry in advance for such a long post.

Ok, so I’m a work from home mom of 2 who just had her youngest about 3 1/2 months ago. Even though I do technically have a job, I only spend about an hour or so a day actually doing work. I’ve just now gotten to a point where I can sit the baby down to straighten up the house a little bit and do some laundry while also finding time to do my work however, I still spend a lot of time nursing.

The first 2 1/2 months after having my son were essentially spent glued to my couch nursing him so during that time I became very addicted to Facebook. I spent all of my time on the app mindlessly scrolling through my feed reacting to and sharing different posts. I do admit that I had a problem and it was brought to my attention by my husband several times. I would often not hear what he was saying when he talked to me because I was distracted by Facebook and on the occasion when we did sit together to watch a movie, I couldn’t help but pick up my phone.

After a while of him complaining about it I realized that he was right, I did have a problem. Like I said, I was on the app almost all of the time and it got to a point where I would scroll through my feed, get off for maybe a minute and then get back on only to refresh the feed and start scrolling again. I was like a zombie. I decided that enough was enough and I was wasting my life away so I deleted the app and for the past week I have only been reinstalling the app twice a day if I even feel like it (morning and evening) to check my notifications and scroll through for about 5-10 minutes.

I’m really proud of myself for making an effort to quit this addiction and my husband and I have had more quality time together. We even laughed together last night which hasn’t happened in a while.

Things have gotten better however, we still have another obstacle. My husband has an addiction as well. It’s to video games. Like he did with me and Facebook, I have mentioned to him several times that I would love for him to be on the games less often so that we can spend time together but despite me bringing this up, nothing has changed.

He works during the week but when he is home and not eating or sleeping then he’s almost always playing World of Warcraft. Yesterday he was complimenting me on my efforts to stay off of Facebook so I took the opportunity to say “hey, maybe since I did this for you then you can do something for me by limiting the amount of time you are on the video game.” I fell like I said it in a very respectful way but he still immediately got very defensive and said that he wasn’t on it as much as I perceived him to be which isn’t true. After he gets off of work and on weekends we never go out of the house as a family because he’s always on the game. I personally just don’t think it’s very fair that he was allowed to criticize me and I made an effort to change but he will not do the same. Am I in the right or the wrong by feeling this way?