So I have a friend, well you can’t really call us that. She never has time for me. Owes me $2,000 from a trip where she got sick and needed medical attention and I had to pay for that and her early flight home. Over a year now her and her mother who told me she’d pay me back have refused to pay a penny. I’m thinking small claims court I have enough evidence. Anyways, she can afford buying tropical getaways with her boyfriend who doesn’t go so she loses all that money (3 trips). Cruises. Trips within US. Concerts front row. So point being she has the means to pay me back she doesn’t plan to. So that’s how she views me. That’s not the problem. She screws everyone in life over including her boyfriend. And nothing ever happens to her. But her boyfriend doesn’t deserve this. If I was him I’d want someone to tell me.

She cheats on him all the time (and I have all the evidence from pictures and her texting me it). I mean repeatedly and all the time. They’ve been together two years. She lies to him all the time. She had an emotional affair with a former boyfriend she can’t get over during their relationship. It just stopped end of 2018. He trusts they are just friends. They aren’t. She made porn with some guy and it ended up online and she is scared he will find out. She was just horny.

She just wants to be with a doctor, which he is. He wants someone successful. She just failed nursing school but is lying to him pretending she didn’t. For two months now!!! She’ll never tell him she failed nursing school.

And the part I extremely disagree with. To get out of ever having to work a job she has stopped taking birth control and is trying to get pregnant without him knowing. Then plans to call it an accident. He thinks she is on birth control and long term relationship so he doesn’t use condoms. She is doing everything she can to get pregnant. She isn’t even sure they’ll stay together but “I’ll be set with child support girl.” Isn’t this wrong?! He doesn’t even want to live together yet or anytime soon. Doesn’t want to get engaged for five more years or married. She hates this and wants to speed this up. She wants to be married now. She thinks this will trap him. Is this not reproductive coercion, which I know usually happens with women? She tells me all sorts of stuff all the time about this and it makes me sick. He trusts her! And he is about to get a baby he doesn’t want.

She has told me I can never meet him because she is scared I’d tell him. I wouldn’t. But that right there tells me we aren’t friends. She ignores me unless it’s convenient for her. She called ICE on a fellow friend and Dreamer for getting on her nerves. She screws everyone else over. So now I don’t feel bad to tell him. I’d want someone to tell me if I was him. But I feel so guilty knowing she has cheated on him REPEATEDLY all the time and is TRYING TO TRAP HIM WITH A BABY! Or if not set herself up for life. That money isn’t going to the child but to her. Tells him lies about her life all the time. I have all the evidence of her repeatedly texting me about it.

The question is what would you do? She isn’t a true friend. She uses me and everyone else. But he has a right to know. He doesn’t want kids right now. He trusts her. And she lies about everything to him. I’d tell him he has a right to know, but if he can still love her knowing all this then they should go ahead and get married. What he does with it is up to him.

Would you tell him? Would you keep it to yourself? I think he has a right to know and here I am knowing their whole two year relationship is built on lies and never saying a word. And she wants it that way cause she knows he’d leave her. Am I in the wrong for wanting to say something? A former friend of hers whose also my friend mentioned one of her cheating escapades and this friend completely iced her and denied it. So he has some suspicions but that was over a year ago. And he said it better not happen again. She claims it never has when it has more than I have fingers and toes.

So should I tell him? Would you? Or no?