hey guys i’m new to this group. my husband and i got married in August 2017 and he went to jail in May 2018 with a sentence of 8 YEARS 😭. our relationship was quite toxic though. he had so much stress about the case and he took it out on me and we were both terrible communicators. so after 4 months of him being in confinement i gave up on us working it out so i started sleeping around trying to fill the huge void in my life. fast forward to us not talking for months, him getting transferred to California, and not seeing him for 8 months i randomly felt like God told me to write him a letter. so i did. and now we’re talking again and i’m so scared but also excited because he seems like he’s doing really well. i’m going to see him in february.

any tips or advice on where to go from here?

*so the visit went really well. we got an extra hour of visitation on the weekends and a couple hours Thursday and Friday night! so i got to be with him for Valentine’s Day 💖 he’s changed quite a bit from what i can tell but i don’t know if you ever really know until he’s out. but his appeal process is coming up and they got some good news a week ago so hopefully that will get processed and his case can get overturned by the end of the year or early next year. i go back home today so i’m scared. i was so ready to just cut him out of my life and now we’re back together but i feel like it’s what God wants so i’m trying to just trust Him.