What’s your experience? And is it worth it?

Question

So I’m 22, my boyfriend is 32.

I plan on moving in with him the end of March and to be honest I get really excited thinking about it.

Though, I get really scared thinking about it also. I feeling like I’m giving up on a lot of opportunity. I say this because he knows what he wants out of life.

I don’t and he knows that. I have no direction. He talks about kids already and that’s not even in my thoughts. (No he’s not asking me to have any right now) but he always bring up “when we have kids” “when he get married”... personally I feel like he’s already decided my future?

Yes we are together, and we’ve been together for a year now. I just feel scared about this whole thing like I’m selling myself short. Like there is way more to life than just moving in, getting married, having babies.

Yes that all sounds great. But not right now.

He’s a great guy, guys... he molds to my every need. But I just feel like there’s a lot of pressure to grow up. I really am still trying to figure my self out.

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If you guys don’t see life the same way, you shouldn’t be with him. It’s not fair to either of you.

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This is the problem with dating older people. I'm sure he's a great guy but you both want very different things right now. If you are feeling hesitant already that's your mind telling you that you don't want to do it. Those are years you won't get back so spend them how you want to. Good luck ❤

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Don't do it then. Live on your own for a while and do your own thing

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I feel you are too young to make that kind of commitment. At 22 you have so much to figure out about life. He has a lot of what he wants figured out. I would be honest with him and tell him perhaps you don’t want to live together yet and you still have things to figure out. Nothing wrong with that.

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You're 22, so, yeah, there is some pressure to grow up but kids don't have to be a right now thing, I'm sure. Is there anything you want to do or think of doing you really can't do with a partner? Personally, I have infinite more opportunities now that I have a committed (and legally obligated, we joke about that) partner than I did when I was single/dating.