Today, this morning he told me if I make breakfast he’ll cook dinner.. he didn’t.. he took a nap and when he woke up claimed he was hungry.. so I knew he wasn’t going to cook so I just volunteered.. as I left he yells into the other room saying how he wants my attention. So as I go back into the room he’s giving me love cuddling with me. We started talking about sex and how he gets irritated that I always say I want to but then as the night goes on I get too tired and want to sleep. Long story short (kind of). I say that I don’t want to be boring and how I feel like I get bored if I’m tired and giving him a bj for less than 5 min bc I’m tired etc he gets upset and turns what I said into I think he’s boring. He walked out the room (slams the door) and changes clothes in our bathroom; he’s getting ready to go to the gym at this point.

Our plan for the rest of the night when he woke up from the nap was to eat then go to the gym.. the food wasn’t done yet and he’s in such a rush to go to the gym.. as he goes back into the room he claims I was boring. So I walk out to finish cooking the food and he yells out that I’m a bitch. So being snarky when I go back into the room I say, “the bitch says foods ready”. He says whatever and leaves.

When he left I locked the door and go to my room.. A few min later he comes back and tries to come in then leaves and says that I’m a fucking joke... about 3 min later he comes back and obnoxiously rings the doorbell over and over again until I come and unlock the door. I unlock it and go into the room again. he makes himself and me a plate and then says “well since you haven’t been getting ready I’ll just go to the gym by myself.” I. Don’t say anything to him, he slams the room door again. After slamming it he says a bunch of shit under his breath while in the other room then says,” I know you hear me so this relationship is based on you”. I open it and tell him to stop slamming the doors and ask him to repeat himself.. which he doesn’t... then I tell him “you haven’t apologized for anything you’ve said to me or even said thank you for the food”. He just leaves and I say I’m tired of this shit and I lock the door again.... then he sends me these text messages....

I want to know what kind of relationship this is perceived as, if it’s toxic, abusive, both.. and what should I do about this kind of stuff? Like do I put my foot down, or do I just leave? Ps I’m sorry for writing a whole book, I just don’t feel like I have anyone to tell this to.