I have been with my current boyfriend for going on 9 months. We are currently in a long distance relationship 7 hours apart because I am in school and he is a pipeline Welder. I typically see him 5 days out of the month depending on what is going on. We talk every night on the phone and text throughout the day, there is not a single thing I am uncomfortable talking to him about. We get along perfectly, have never gotten in any arguments and I’ve never once felt threatened by being so far apart. He has made it abundantly clear to me that he is in this for the long haul.

However he has an ex that he was with for 4 years and while they were together she cheated on him, got pregnant and had the kid. My boyfriend raised the baby for the first year of the little boys life bc the real father did not want a part in it. He was also constantly helping his ex out financially because to be quite frank... the woman didn’t have her shit together. Not to mention, my boyfriend truly did love this woman. A year after the kid is born, after my boyfriend had been playing daddy to this kid, paternal father decides he wants to be apart of little boys life, my boyfriends girlfriend at the time broke things off with my boyfriend so little boy could be raised by real daddy. My boyfriend continued to pick up the little boy and have him over for weekends for a good time after until his ex became malicious and hateful over it and he had to stop seeing the little boy.

He has not had contact with his ex or the little boy for over a year but she is still on his Facebook and as of late has been trying to get ahold of him via messenger. He always just ignores her but I don’t know why he wouldn’t just block her... I have not asked him to do this bc I think it’s a little overboard but I wonder why he hasn’t all the time. He has promised me he has moved on and wants nothing to do with her but staying Facebook friends with an ex that is suddenly trying to contact you despite you being in a relationship is a little bit too much for me.

Furthermore his Facebook profile picture and cover picture on Facebook are still of this little boy.... and has been for the last 2 years. It did not bother me till my mom said something about it. I’m not going to let a profile picture be the end of our relationship, I just feel like we have been together too long for him to still be entertaining such a hard time in his past. We have talked about it and he assured me we would change it the next time we saw each other... I’m unsure as to why he wants to wait till then.

Moral of all of this is I want to know if I’m being heartless and over-reacting. What are y’alls opinions?