A bit of backstory first! I’m 21 and just married my 23 year old husband 4 months ago. We have known each other for almost 14 years (8 & 9 when we met at church). We were inseparable from day one, not kidding! Because we met so young, our parents loved our friendship and have always been incredibly supportive of our relationship. Very long story short, we never lost contact or dated anyone else, and recently got hitched 💍👰🏼🤵🏼

Now, my MiL is STILL amazing and supportive and I love her to death. She’s my other mother and a fantastic woman. She also happens to have an incredibly bad case of BABY FEVER. My husband only has one other sibling, an older brother who seems unable to get his life together. He’s been married for 4 years now, but they live with my SiL’s parents since my in-laws kicked them out of their house.

Because my BiL and SiL are nowhere ready for a baby, they have decided that my husband and I are their best chance of getting a grand pronto. We both came from Christian households and abstained until marriage. But, even a year before our wedding, she was trying to get me to hold her new grand-nephew and “rub those baby juices all over you!” I like kids as long as I can give them back. Then, at the end of our wedding reception toast, she announced “and finally, grandkids grandkids grandkids grandkids grandkids!” Everyone but her could see I was VERY uncomfortable with her announcement.

I should add that my husband is 100% with me on our fertility decisions. We made it VERY clear to all our immediate family that we wanted to wait 5-7 years and LIVE LIFE together before kids. We’re early 20’s for crying out loud. She says she accepts this, but repeatedly tags me in parenting articles on FB, shares articles about population decline and tags me along with a few other newlyweds with a caption of “come on people, let’s have some babies!” and makes comments frequently about how bad she wants a little grand to snuggle. It’s gotten to be almost a every other weekly thing, and I’m getting very frustrated with her. She’s a labor and delivery nurse and I know she’s not going to drop this on her own any time soon.

I want to maintain our great relationship, but the baby fever is driving me NUTS. I’m so not interested in kids right now. I spent 14 years wanting to marry my husband and share my life with him. We never lived together and I’m loving this new stage with him! Also, just so we’re clear, my husband and I use pills and condoms, so it’s NOT going to happen any time soon! Any suggestions for how to deal with this? My mom totally understands and respects all our choices. She makes jokes every ONCE in a while, but I always know she never means them. My MiL could not be more serious. Help please?