So, my bf and I have been dating a little while now and been having sex a couple times a week as a norm. I’m a few years ago younger than him, and am much less experienced than him. So, sex is still new territory I’m excited to map out.

I love this guy and want to be with him for a very long time. He isn’t scared to share his feelings and to tell me how much he loves me. He tells me about how he sees our future and how he can’t wait to be with me a long time. But every time I try to do the same I feel like it comes out wrong. I don’t how to say the things I feel to him. I worry a lot about being too clingy, so I try to give him space to do him. I always wait for him to text first and I never give him crap for not texting me back. But I’m starting to worry I give him too much space and he doesn’t really think I love him. I think that sometimes he’s testing me to see if I care, and that sometimes I fail.

Here’s how this connects: a lot of times I feel like I have to convince him to have sex. I’m starting to wonder if I’m pressuring him into having sex. I want him to know that I find him sexy, but i think I’m communicating that better than I’m communicating my love for him. He often says things like “not everything is about sex” in only a semi joking tone. I also got drunk a few days ago and kind of turned every romantic thing my lowered inhibitions allowed me to say, back into something sexual. He seemed disappointed about the whole thing. I’m starting to think he thinks I’m using him for sex.

He’s pulled a muscle in his groin working out, so sex is off the table for a while. Which I think might be the thing we need. I’m just wondering what I can do to help divert this before it becomes a problem in our relationship. I don’t want to seem to clingy, but what are somethings I can do to help show him I care about him? What do you guys do? I want to do little things that’ll make him smile, without him feeling like Im constantly needing attention. I’m not good at the whole showing my feelings thing.