So I was dating this guy for 5 months last year and he dumped me very suddenly and by dumped I mean he ghosted me and then eventually texted me a vague explanation saying that there was stuff he needed to deal with that he’d been avoiding and that he didn’t think he should be dating right now. I was crushed and frustrated that he didn’t just come talk to me but instead tried to act like I didn’t exist.

Fast forward to yesterday (3 months later) I had asked him several weeks ago if he’d be willing to meet up and have a real conversation about what happened. He finally agreed and came by my apartment. He apologized repeatedly about the way he handled everything and explained that he ex was making crazy accusations and he was embarrassed about it and didn’t want to drag me into it. I honestly bought his story for the most part because he had never previously given me a reason to be skeptical.

But then my friend later that day suggested that we google him and damn that changed everything. There was link after link of news stories about him being arrested multiple times for a few different things but most recently animal abuse. Like he beat and abandoned a few dogs. One of them died and it was just awful. Most of the arrests actually happened while we were dating. He spent a night in jail because he couldn’t post bail and I had seen him that day and had no clue. He lives 40 mins away from me and in a different state so it was easy for him to hide it all I guess.

He was honestly the sweetest guy and had me so fooled and now I’m honestly just in shock. The things I was reading genuinely leads me to believe he’s potentially a sociopath though I am not at all a licensed professional so take that how you want.

Anyway I’m not really looking for anything in particular, this is more of a “screaming into the void” type post. Moral of the story ALWAYS GOOGLE PEOPLE