When you are young you don't really think about the fact that you are aging and headed towards looking and acting like your parents. But that's what's happening. It's no longer socially acceptable to do hobbies that bring you joy like late night dancing, self care, dressing classy/sexy. I mean especially as women it's as if we are supposed to give up on ourselves, put a potato sack on and wait to die.

Taking care of yourself is considered selfish if you have kids. I don't agree with this but this is common thought. Getting older is depressing. Nobody likes to have fun anymore.

Update: the common thought is its selfish to practice self care. You will see other moms putting down the fit/thin mom with nice hair and great makeup. I dont agree with this. I also dont think your kids should be your whole life. Your marriage and well being is just as important. You have to take care of yourself to take care of other people. I rarely see fit well taken care of women over a certain age. It seems like you're expected to give up