When do I tell my best friend struggling to get pregnant?

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Need some advice ladies! I’ll try to make this as short as possible....
So my best friend & I have been BF since the 1st grade, she’s been there through it all! Last year she got pregnant for the 1st time and sadly had a MC. It was horrible to watch your friend go through that. 3M later I got pregnant with my 2nd. It was so difficult to tell her with all she was going thru trying to conceive again. She was of course so happy for me but I know she was hurting because she too wanted to be pregnant. A month later I had a MC & of course my BF was the first person I called. 💜
Fast forward 4M later I am pregnant again, 5W currently & I am struggling more than before on when & how to tell my BF. I know she will be happy for me again but my heart hurts for her.  How should i tell her? In person, on the phone? We we’re together the other day but we were out &  and I just didn’t feel right doing it then. 
I keep praying we both just tell each other at the same time that we are both preg!

TIA mamas ❤️🌈

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She’s your best friend. Tell her in person and just be mindful of her situation. Let her know that you don’t want to make her feel bad and ask her to be honest with you if you overstep. Of course she will be sad inside but she will be happy for you!

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From a fellow infertile.
Tell her in private and before you announce. I would try not to get your feelings hurt if she doesn’t seem thrilled initially- she probably will be excited for you & sad for herself, which is such a hard place to be in.
If she distances herself for a little, give her the space. She will come around.
GL

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I think she will be thrilled for you,  especially since you also suffered a loss. It may be different if she was struggling and you got pregnant first shot. I have really good friends who have been afraid to tell me because they knew I was struggling.  I can assure you,  I was thrilled for each of them!

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I know the feeling well. My bf has been trying for #2 for almost 2 years and here I come not even trying and find out I'm pregnant. I felt bad telling her because she was clearly upset but still happy for me. Your bf will definitely be happy for you too. She just may be disappointed at her own situation. Unfortunately we can't control how others feel... Good luck!

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I have not had to go through the horrible experience of miscarriage and I can’t imagine what either of you went through! My best friend got pregnant with her 3rd baby and it’s easy peasy for her to conceive. I struggle with infertility issues. While she’s been supportive and sweet, when she sent a text to me and our other best friend announcing her 3rd-I was happy for her because she is my best friend! But I feel like the way she approached telling me wasn’t the most... sensitive way. In a text, kind of bragging a bit. So I think as long as you are sincere to her FIRST, maybe in person just explaining how you want to tell her but that you also are very aware of her struggle and want to be sensitive. You clearly are a very great friend already just considering her feelings! I think that’s all I wanted was acknowledgement of her knowing it’s hard for me.  Congrats though!

When do I tell my best friend struggling to get pregnant?

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