I have a question for the men. My husband is not passionate or adventurous when it comes to sex. We’ve been together for 5 years and have two kids and over time it seems like the spark has just gone and now we pretty much only do it out of biological need instead of desire for one another. He never goes down on me and rarely does foreplay. I told him that I’d like to spice up our sex life. Try sensual massages, roleplay, sexting, etc. He agrees in the moment but when the time comes he pretty much forgets all about my suggestions. A couple days ago tried sending him a sexy photo for the first time in a while and it just turned into an argument because he accused me of sending it to someone else because I never take pictures like that. It kills me that he won’t sext with me because when I was pregnant a few months ago I caught him sexting other women on whisper one night when he was drunk. It hurt me because he was saying things to them that he used to say to me when we first got together but doesn’t anymore. I told him that if he doesn’t want to be with me then he should let me know because I wasn’t going to keep him away from his kids or anything like that and I wouldn’t want us to both suffer by being in a relationship he doesn’t want. He says he still wants to be with me and still finds me attractive but if that’s so then why did he do what he did and why didn’t he want to improve his sex life with me?