I've been with this guy two times now. First night was after LOTS of drinking with coworkers. We cuddled, he fingered me, went down on me, and tried to get it in but I don't remember if he actually finished (he did pull out though).

The second time, we cuddled at my place, had two or three drinks each. He fingered me, went down on me, and tried to get it in while spooning, but couldn't stay up. He felt really bad and kept apologizing and blaming alcohol, reassuring me that it wasn't my fault (I joked and said it was).

He also said next time he won't drink, but it's been a week and there hasn't been any hint of a next time yet :/ we've been great as friends lately and he's super sweet and we joke around at work a lot. I'm in that awkward "I caught feelings" phase, too, which doesn't help.

TLDR, have you been with any guys who have had this issue? What did you do? What did they do? Does alcohol have this much of an effect?