Secure: Have trusting, lasting relationships, Tend to have good self-esteem, Are comfortable sharing feelings with partners and friends, Seek out social support

Ambivalent: Reluctant to become close to others

Worry that their partner does not love them.

Become very distraught when relationships end. When they’re in one, it can be difficult to connect. They might be aware of their difficulty expressing emotions, and seek out emotionally open (even vulnerable) romantic partners to help fill that need.

Dismissive Avoidant: Tend to keep an emotional distance between themselves and their partners. Connections with others are low on their list of values, and they often brush feelings aside – their own as well as other people’s. They may be love avoidant and generally stay away from close or romantic relationships.

Fearful Avoidant: Many a commitmentphobe may turn out to have a fearful-avoidant attachment style. They could come across as ambivalent, and while they do want to have their emotional needs met, their fear of being close can get in the way. They can obsess about whether their partner loves them or not. Unpredictable moods.

Disorganized: Usually abused as a child. Can choose who they attach to, but they usually choose partners that confirm their beliefs about attachment. Usually, without even realizing it, they search for someone who will exhibit frightening, frightened, inconsistent responses when they seek connection.