How do you deal with language barrier between SO’s family?

I feel awkward with my boyfriends family because they don’t speak English and I don’t speak Spanish. So it’s always hard to communicate without my SO because we can’t speak to each other without my bf being present. I always feel like he doesn’t want to be with me due the lack of communication.

I always compare & I know it’s bad. BUT whenever his friends wife comes over, they all can engage in full conversations, laughing. It just hurts me because I feel like I’m not enough and question if he actually really wants to be with me.

Anything suggestions to making it better?

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Ke

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Get rosetta stone . 

Se

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Learn Spanish

Pa

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Agree, if they see you trying they will appreciate and help you.

De

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I’d suggest starting to learn Spanish, or even ask your SO to teach you how to engage a basic conversation. Practice, practice, practice!

ku

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same happened to me I didn’t speak no Spanish and honestly one day I said screw it when I got more comfortable and started trying to speak Spanish and now I’m pretty fluent 😁👍

Ju

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I’m Latina that comes from a traditional Mexican household and my bf is a full on white country boy lol. But him and my mom try their best to communicate. She knows minimum English. She’s just happy he tries.It’s hard to fit in when there’s a language barrier but as long as they see you are trying to fit in they will accept you.

My

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I can relate. All of my boyfriends family speaks Spanish and I’m a English speaker. The kids speak English and Spanish, but I don’t really engage in convo with a bunch of 6-10 y/o’s lol. I know a little bit of Spanish to get by, but can’t have a full convo unless my boyfriend is translating. It’s tough bc I really want to talk and have the same enjoyment at events as them but it weird bc i understand hardly nothing so i sit there straight faced observing. He’s gonna teach our daughter Spanish so I’m gonna learn with her and hope I catch on. 3 years of Spanish class didn’t work 😫

Le

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Maybe start a langue course. If they see you trying to make an effort then it will mean the world!In the meantime, use google translate. Again, showing the effort will mean so much!

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Lesley 🌈 • Feb 6, 2019
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I think you should definitely try and learn! I was already fairly fluent in French before meeting my SO’s family but we meet in the middle and I practice a lot with my SO. Learning a language is hard but if you feel this uncomfortable by it, why not learn some in your free time? Try duolingo, you can even download the app. You may not be fluent but at least you’ll be putting in some effort that I’m sure they’ll appreciate